Background Story:
Two adults living in the same house. You have an agreement to take turns washing dishes. You each think it is the others turn. Dirty dishes are in the sink.
It‘s your turn to wash the dishes!
| Emotional Scale Quick Reference | |||
|---|---|---|---|
| Positive | 1. Joy | 2. Passion | 3. Enthusiasm |
| 4. Belief | 5. Optimism | 6. Hopefulness | 7. Contentment |
| 8. Boredom | 9. Pessimism | 10. Frustration | 11. Overwhelment |
| 12. Disappointment | 13. Doubt | 14. Worry | 15. Blame |
| 16. Discouragement | 17. Anger | 18. Revenge | 19. Hatred |
| 20. Jealousy | 21. Guilt | 22. Depression | Negative |
| Before | After | Statement | Explanation |
|---|---|---|---|
| 15 | 19 | It‘s not my turn! | Arguing with an angry person will escalate the situation. |
| 15 | 9 | Are you frustrated? | Emotional word empathy guess will move someone up the scale. |
| 15 | 17 | Don‘t get angry with me! | Telling someone what emotion not to have, usually is not helpful. |
| 15 | 16 | Oh, like you have never missed a day. | Sarcasm is not the tool of the wise. |
| 15 | 7 | Would you like equality? | When I‘m tempted to say fair, I find equality is a much more connecting word. |
| 15 | 18 | You haven‘t taken out the trash yet! | Pointing out someone‘s shortcomings rarely leads to connection. |
Additional comments:
I don‘t know if there is anyone who can relate to a dishes argument but I thought I would include one anyway.
| Author | Emotion | Relationship | Topic |
|---|---|---|---|
| Jeff | Guilt | Friends | Death of pet |
| Vincent | Blame | Friends teen boys | Video Game |
| Jeff | Anger | Co-worker friend | Work Conflict |
| Jeff | Blame | Spouse/Roommate | Dirty Dishes |
| Vincent/Jeff | Frustration | Friends | Bad Throw |
| Vincent | Blame | Friends | Merry Go Round |
| Jeff Tretsven | Contentment | Empathy Buddies | Empathy Pause |
| Jeff Tretsven | Blame | Coworkers | Heated Meeting |
| Jeff Tretsven | Discouraged | Friend/Family | Self Criticism |
| Jeff Tretsven | Worry | Heir Apparent? | Inheritance |
| Jeff Tretsven | Discouraged | NVC Peer | Hearing No! |
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